The Culture of Being Well Together
Being well begins with knowing ourselves well enough to notice what helps us feel integrated, grounded and able to pause, understand what is happening within us, and choose how we want to respond.
Being well together means bringing that awareness into how we relate to others. It’s about how we listen, support, disagree, repair and make space for differences without losing ourselves. It does not mean that everyone agrees, gets along all the time or sees the world in the same way. Difference, tension and change are part of being alive.
The practice starts with noticing: What helps you feel like yourself? What pulls you away from yourself? What is affecting the space you are in? Who gets listened to? Whose experiences and knowledge are taken seriously? What have we inherited from the people who came before us? And what are the decisions we make today creating for the people who come next?
The practice is learning how to move through those questions with care, paying attention to how we treat ourselves, each other and the world around us, so that being part of something does not require us to shrink ourselves or make someone else smaller.
Culture grows out of the things we repeatedly do, value, allow and care for everyday.
Hello, welcome. I’m Hyacinth, a cultural wellbeing architect and educator, with family roots stretching across the globe.
I’ve spent much of my life feeling slightly out of step with the rooms I was in. Not always dramatically, just enough to notice what others seemed to accept without question. I learned to follow that discomfort instead of constantly correcting myself for it.
That curiosity became part of my work. I’m a rebel with a cause, drawn to the people and places where something does not quite fit, where voices go unheard, or where belonging comes with conditions.
I love working with young people and the adults around them to notice what helps them feel seen, respected and able to remain themselves while learning and growing with others.
A Body That Learns
Bringing the awareness of seasons, cycles and history into how we think about education, rest and activity.
Our bodies’ health shapes how we live and learn. We move through cycles of waking and sleeping, activity and rest, hormones, seasons, growth and ageing. We change from day to day and across life stages.
How we learn to treat our bodies usually starts at home — our first school. There we learn what counts as pain, when we can rest, which feelings are allowed, and when we must carry on. Those lessons travel with us into classrooms, workplaces and care settings.
So caring for ourselves means asking where our ideas about the body come from. Why do we praise pushing through exhaustion? Why is one kind of healing respected while another is dismissed? Why are some people’s pain believed more than others? What happens when productivity is valued above the person?
Learning about the body is also learning about its inherited world (e.g. colonialism and patriarchy), the conditions it lives in now, and what we might choose to change.
Ground Notes: Learning from Within Daycare
Culture, communication and care as lived inside the crèche.
Who remembers being a small child? There’s the carefree play, splashing in mud, cuddles and comfort. There’s also needing help with almost everything: learning to share, testing limits, finding words, getting overwhelmed and relying on adults to help us make sense of the world.
When my own children became teenagers, I began working in a Flemish crèche with babies and toddlers. It showed me how easily caring for young children is treated as simple or low-skilled work, even though it asks us to understand behaviour, emotion, communication, safety and relationships all at once.
We are rarely taught these skills at school, or how to stay connected to the younger parts of ourselves that still need reassurance, patience, carefree exploration and understanding.
I started Ground Notes to reflect on what the crèche taught me. Those children continued something my own children had already begun teaching me: how to slow down. And when I slowed down often enough, larger questions started to appear.
Ground Notes is where I share my take on those too.
Still curious?
From here, I invite you to explore the reflections, resources and conversations gathered across this site, and to notice where they meet, affirm, complicate or gently unsettle how you see yourself, other people and the world
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